Courting in late Georgian and Regency England wasn't for the faint of heart. Courting was serious business
and the business was all about making the best match possible. In a time when
being married was a woman's career, landing the richest man with the highest
social station wasn't just a matter of bragging rights, it set the tone for the
rest of a woman's life.
During the whirlwind of the London Season in the spring, ladies were introduced to society with the intent of finding a husband. Balls played an important part in the courting process. These dances weren't the prom, but a marriage market where a young lady might finally get a chance to dance with a young man, and have a conversation with him without the chaperon hovering around. Individual dances like those portrayed in Pride and Prejudice could last a long time, and depending on the dance, there could be a lot of standing around and waiting as the numerous couples sashayed up and down the line. All this standing around offered a good chance for a man and woman to get to know one another or to decide they weren't a good fit. Since a woman was only allowed to dance with a man twice before people started whispering that they were engaged, she had to decide fast. Think speed dating with the rest of your life hanging in the balance.
So, did a young
couple who were a good fit wander off to the garden, slip upstairs and find a
deserted room? No. This wasn’t a frat party, and if a lady wanted to keep her
reputation, which she needed to land a good man, she was careful to stay in a
public place at all times. Also, her chaperone wasn’t likely to let her out of
her sight, so even if the open garden doors were calling, a smart lady ignored
the call. Hanky panky was for after marriage when the heir and the spare were
safely in the nursery. Until then, it was all good girl all the time. Also, it
wasn’t just the woman’s reputation hanging in the balance, but those of her
sisters and her family. Remember Lydia Bennet in Pride and Prejudice and how her running off with Mr. Wickham risked
ruining her sisters’ chances of finding husbands? There was a lot riding on a
woman’s good behavior.
A ball was
also a good time to look over the prospective candidates, learn who was who and
how much money they possessed. Women were on the market just as much as the
men, so advertising their own wealth was a smart move. Balls were excellent
places for women to wear their finest dresses and flaunt the goods. It was in a
woman’s best interest to cultivate the pick of the gentlemen and not get stuck
with last Season’s leftovers. Love might conquer all, but it rarely landed a
poor woman a man of means.
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2 comments:
This is so interesting! I love how proper everything was back then! I just saw that you are a writer, that is so great. I need to check out your books. I also saw you are from San Diego, I used to live there for many years :) Thanks for coming by Chemistry Cachet's Hollywood book post, I wanted to stop by and say hello back. Have a great day!
Hello to you too! I'm glad you enjoyed the post. Thanks for stopping by and have a great weekend.
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